Broken hearts exist – both literally and figuratively. They don’t always involves love problems, either. They might involve deteriorating friendships, the loss of a loved one or any other painful experience. Either way, it may feel like a thousand steely knives have pierced through your whole soul and the world as you know will suddenly fall apart right before your eyes. The dreams you built may vanish into thin air and all that’s left are the memories and the hope that things will still go back to the way they were before.
Naturally, when this happens, you will need some time to sit in the debris and lick your wounds for a while. However, the time will come when you will have to get back up on our feet, whether you like it or not. While this may look easier said than done, you should remember that being emotionally strong is in your female DNA. You are built to take on this world. Painful experiences may be everywhere, but they can also be blessing in disguise, as unbelievable as that sounds. If you need help getting back up for now, here are 3 steps to help you stand up again and get going:
Step 1: Accept what happened.
Recount the painful experience and figure out why it happened in the first place. Think about where things went wrong and whether there is really anything that you can do about it. Cry if you have to. Listen to sentimental songs if you must. However, don’t let the pain consume you. You will go through various stages of anger and denial before finally reaching acceptance, but keep in mind that everything happens for a reason. So, stop crying after you’ve had your fill of tears, pick yourself up and face the world again when you’re ready. Do not dwell in the pain for too long.
Step 2: Turn to the people that you love.
Lastly, spend more time with your family and friends. These people have always have been there for you, no matter what, and therefore will be at your time of need, as well. You can talk to them about how you feel and they will try their best to understand you and give you the kind of love that no one else can give. They will also give you the kind of support that you’ll need to get over the pain faster.
Step 3: Become a better you.
Whether you’re applying for a job or a promotion, starting a new hobby or going back to the gym, you have to start loving and believing in yourself again. Again, whatever caused you pain is there to make you stronger. Something better is most definitely on the way, so stay positive and let the good vibes shine through! Visualize a goal for yourself, or what you want to be after your transition and just go for it! Continue to improve yourself, too. Increase your knowledge by taking new classes, meet new people with similar interests and find new passions that will make the world look like a great place full of opportunities once again.
Overall, your main goal should be to take your mind off of what happened and surround yourself with positive people that you trust and love – those who will never let you down. As long as you stay strong and hold your head up high, the 3 steps above should prepare you to say hello to a brand new beginning as needed!