If you have been single for a while and you would like to get back on the horse, it’s important to know a few things first. Read on and see if you’re ready to give love another chance.
Are You Ready?
The first question you should ask yourself before you start dating again is ─ are you ready? We humans have so much potential to succeed in many things, but when it comes to dealing with matters of the heart, we inimitably and colossally fail.
Say, when we lose out on a promotion or fail an exam, we would sulk in some corner for a while, get over it, and easily get back on track. We would promise to work harder and grab the next chance we get. But, when it comes to heartbreaks, we fail miserably, and then commit the same mistakes again and again. It’s a horrendous cycle.
So, before you get back on the dating scene, make sure you are emotionally and mentally ready. If you have moved on completely, and you no longer feel the urge to stalk his social media profile, then you’re probably ready.
Take it Slow
Dating too soon will not give you time and space to improve yourself and completely heal. The next person you date after a really bad breakup should be a fresh start, which means you are not going to commit to it just yet. Take your time to know the person better.
Being in a relationship may not be new to you anymore, but meeting a new person means you have to start from ground zero. Never assume that you already know the drill. Don’t fall into the hookup bandwagon, as it will only make you feel more insecure and pathetic.
You Should be in Control
Did you feel inferior in your previous relationship? Did you lose a chunk of your awesome personality in the process? Your new relationship should be an opportunity to reinvent yourself.
Being in a relationship should be an enriching experience. If you lost more than you gained, then it wasn’t healthy at all. So this time, put yourself in a position of power, instead of being the needy, lonely person that you were after the breakup.
Most girls would jump into dating to feel validated, but they end up feeling lonelier. If you decide to start dating again, make sure you hold all the cards, that when you feel like something is off, you can easily get out of it. If you love yourself, don’t set yourself up for another disaster.
Set Your Standards a Level Higher
The next relationship should absolutely be better than the last one. If it’s not, then it’s probably not going to be worth it. Think of your last relationship as a previous job experience or a Bachelor’s degree. That relationship ended for a reason, and you don’t want to put up with the same drama.
You are not reentering the dating scene to feel loved and special again. Instead, you should only start dating when you realize your worth and when you feel completely and autonomously happy.
Your new date does not entirely have to be romantic. What matters is you prove to yourself that you are ready to meet new people. Instead of committing yourself right away, be in it for the fun. Love should be patient, slow and sure, so that both your emotions are perfectly aligned. Try harder to suspend the mystery, as it will be more rewarding in the long run. Happy dating!