We all have our relationship pet peeves. For some, it could be the way their partners noisily chew their food. For others, it could be the fact that their guys seem to conveniently forget to put the toilet seat down.
Ever wondered what could be considered “ultimate turnoffs” for guys? I asked several men for their input, and here’s what they have to say.
We easily fall prey to this. Despite all our good intentions for reminding your loved one about certain things over and over, this never plays out well to most guys. In the end, all our efforts are wasted because they just tune out once we start nagging, so it would be better to stick to just a gentle reminder or two.
2. Unreasonable jealousy
If your partner’s obviously flirting, then assert yourself. But once you start seeing every woman (or man) he or she meets as a possible threat to your relationship, then pause for a moment and evaluate the situation. Who knows it could just be all in your head.
3. Intense insecurity
That’s why your partner’s with you in the first place. He saw something that really did attract him toward your demeanor no matter how awkward you think it might be. Insecurities hinder us from being truly happy, and it makes us overthink everything. So just stop, and enjoy being in the moment.
4. Being rude
How you treat people reflects the amount of respect you give to them. If you’re rude to the service crew at McDonald’s, that’s a clear sign of what type of people you feel are worthy of your attention.
If all you talk about is gossip or who’s doing what/who’s with whom, you’ll end up boring your partner (or anyone in particular) with your surface-level conversation. Read up, watch the news, and get in touch with the inner sanctums of your mind.
Being self-centered may not always mean “you” as the subject of all your conversations, although that truly does count as such. Being self-centered is turning the tables inward so that the spotlight of the relationship is always you. After all, ending to another person’s whims and pitfalls every time can be dreadfully exhausting.
7. Being a constant source of negativity
Being in a relationship means being open to one another, and that involves freely communicating your thoughts and feelings. Sure, your partner is a shoulder to cry and lean on when the going gets tough, but make sure you don’t focus on the bad stuff all the time–constant negativity can really drain one’s energy.
8. Being a worrywart
Sometimes, it’s easier to worry when we’re faced with a new challenge. But constant worrying can be a vicious cycle, and it just ends up paralyzing you with fear in the end. Don’t let it get hold of you!
So, before we voice out “chauvinism!” toward these opinions, we still need to take a step back and assess ourselves. Sure, I don’t agree with all of them either, but they are nice tidbits of information to have in mind. Of course, our partners fell in love with us for a reason (we’re awesome individuals, after all), but there’s always room for self-improvement that could make sparks fly further up.
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Bea is a single mother addicted to life hacks, books, food and the ocean. Bent on creating a better world for her daughter, she's using writing as a medium to get to where she needs to be, one chapter at a time.