Love can be a strange and fickle thing. Sometimes, couples who have been together for several years eventually find out that they’re not really meant for each other. Other times, it only takes a couple a few months before they realize that they aren’t as compatible as they had hoped. The whole point of dating is to find someone that we can spend our lifetime with, right? So, how will you be able to tell if your relationship is one that might last? However long you and your guy have been together, here are some signs to look for that you just might be made for each other.
1. You trust each other with your deepest thoughts and secrets.
Trust goes a long way in creating a lasting relationship. When you’re searching for a forever with someone, it’s essential that you trust him even at your most vulnerable moments. If you and your man are meant to be, you’ll be able to share everything about yourself with him, and he should be doing the same. You can freely tell him secrets about you that no one else has ever known, and he’s comfortable showing you all his hidden depths as well. You feel safe and comfortable with each other, even when revealing your weaknesses and insecurities.
2. You are your best self when you’re with him.
Being MFEO also means you and your are able to influence each other to become better versions of yourselves. It doesn’t mean your guy is trying to change you–that’s a bad sign. But, without pressure from your man, being with him should motivate you to be the best that you can be. He should be able to make you feel like you can truly reach the stars with him at your side. If you’re with the right person, you should be able to love and fully accept the person that you are when you’re with him, too.
3. You have disagreements, but you always work them out.
Fights happen–any couple who has stayed together past the “honeymoon phase” can tell you that. No matter how compatible two people are, there will always be something that causes conflict in a relationship. That’s okay. What’s really important is how you, as a couple, deal with conflict when it arises. A couple that is meant to be will be able to solve their issues in a healthy manner, without harboring grudges long after words have been said. Relationships take effort, and when an argument surfaces, it will show you if you’re both willing to put in the effort required to make the relationship last. When you have fights but are able to resolve them rationally, it’s a good sign that the two of you are mature enough and determined enough to make the relationship last.
4. You can see a long, happy future with him in it.
Obviously, if you and your guy are meant to be together, you should be able to see him in your future. This means more than just daydreaming about the perfect wedding and a big house with the much-desired white picket fence, though; this means having compatible goals. For example, if your dream is to live abroad and experience other cultures, but his dream is to stay in his hometown and live out a comfortable life there, then you have a pretty big compatibility issue. You and your man don’t have to have the exact same dreams and goals, but they should at least be able to work together; if not, either one of you will be unhappy or you both will. If there’s forever together in your future, your desires and dreams will allow you to end up in the same place in life.
5. He just gets you.
It’s hard to explain, but usually when it’s meant to be, you just know, somehow. It’s that inexplicable feeling of contentment that you have when you’re with him, that pride and joy you have when you’re introducing him to your friends and family. He’s your soulmate, even if you never believed in soulmates before you met him. He makes you feel warm and happy, even if you’re just sitting in silence together for hours while you do separate things. Your relationship and your friendship with him just click, it just feels right and you know that he’s the one you’re supposed to be with. Sometimes, it’s really just that simple.
I, for one, never believed in soulmates, until I met the man that I am now married to. Suddenly, all the relationships I’d had that failed made sense–I could see clearly why they’d never worked out and I knew that this one was different. If you and your man are made for each other, most (if not all) of these signs will be present in your relationship. It still won’t be quite like in the fairy tales–after all, there’s no flawless love story with no problems and no effort required–but it will be worth fighting for and worth all of the work you need to put into it.