Taylor Swift said it herself: it’s heartbreaking when your special someone sees you as “just a friend.”
No one enjoys being stuck in the “friendzone.” We see it as this dead end to our dreams of forever with that one special guy. When he says you are just a friend, it definitely stings because you love him more than that.
Staying in the Zone could be agonizing at first, but it’s not exactly the worst thing in the world. In fact, there is some good in it; you just can’t see it now. If you are one of those girls, here are five reasons it’s okay to be Queen of the Zone:
1. The Struggle is Real for Everyone
Fortunately, you are not the only one experiencing this. Even the most charming and beautiful women are not immune to the friend zone. Truth is, getting stuck in the Zone happens even to the best of us, so don’t fret. We’ve all been there once (or several times!), but that just means that we deserve someone even way more better than the guy we’re currently crying over.
2. Wear Your Honesty Like a Badge of Pride
You might have landed in the Zone after confessing your feelings to your friend, who doesn’t seem to share the same feelings as yours.
Before you sob uncontrollably for what happened, take a second to appreciate yourself for speaking up. Not everyone can go after what they want, let alone confess their feelings to someone. Be proud because you picked up the courage to express what you feel.
No one likes rejection, but it’s better than never acting on your feelings at all.
3. Girl, It’s Not Your Fault
Most girls think that getting stuck in the friend zone is all their fault. But seriously, if your crush fails to appreciate just how awesome you are, that doesn’t mean you’re not worthy of a solid relationship.
This person likes you as a friend, but being the right one for him involves a number of factors, some of which are outside your control. Don’t be too hard on yourself, girl friend. Just because your friend does not reciprocate your romantic feelings, that doesn’t mean you are unlikable.
You’ll survive this one-sided affair by coming out stronger than before. Believe it or not, the Zone gives you the knowledge of what you really want in a relationship.
4. Friendship is Better than None at All
It’s better to be friends with the guy you love than have nothing in between at all. The expression “just friends” can sting, but it’s one of the most important treasures in the world. At the end of the day, you can count on it to last for a longer period of time.
Look at the bright side: your crush is a member of your intimate group of friends. Whether you like or love him, you can always run to him for jokes or tiny bursts of inspiration.
5. You CAN Still Get Out of the Zone
Ron Weasley and Ron Stoppable proved one fact: getting out of the Friend Zone is POSSIBLE. By remaining good friends with the apples of their eye, they managed to turn their girl friends into girlfriends. You can do it, too.
To get out of the friend zone, you just have to stick around, but don’t expect him to change his mind. You stick with him because you care for him as a friend–or possibly something more.
So, if you’re stuck in the friend zone, stop worrying your pretty head. Each tomorrow holds new promises of hope. Just keep being a friend who cares for him no matter what. Who knows? He might see you in a different light soon.
Featured Image from Unsplash via Pixabay
What's Your Reaction?
Ashley is an awkward potato in love with words, Kpop, and corgis. She spends her free time dancing like one of those balloon things you see in malls.