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Welcome to your first date with Mr. A. You think he’s cute, but you need to make sure that you do a good reading on your very first date. So here are a few signs to watch for to know whether your date is a keeper or not.
1. Did he put any effort into his appearance?
I think this is basic date etiquette. If he’s trying to woo you or win you over, he should definitely try to look good. Think of it this way: The person you’re going on a date with must think you’re worth the effort to try and look presentable. That doesn’t mean he has to turn into a fashionista overnight, but if he shows up at your doorstep in a sando and pambahay tsinelas, then you better think twice.
2. Is he a gentleman?
A little chivalry is sweet, and it still goes a long way. That doesn’t mean that he thinks you’re weak, but it’s definitely a sign that he will put you first above anything else.
3. Does he come on too strong?
Aside from the common courtesy of holding doors open, does he step beyond the borders of normal social conduct? Is he being too touchy feely that’s making you feel uncomfortable (even simple taps on the knee or shoulder)? Hold the phone, that’s a red flag.
4. How does he treat the other women in his life?
By “other women,” we don’t mean other wives or girlfriends! When you talk about each others’ families, try to look for cues on how he treats his mother, sister, aunts, and other female relatives because it’s a closer look at how he’ll treat his future partner.
5. Does he mention his ex(es)?
Depending on how comfortable the two of you are when talking about your past relationships, questions about ex-partners may arise. If you find that he keeps bad-mouthing his exes, saying that they’re all crazy, and that they were to blame for the sour end of their relationship, it’s time to do a little re-thinking.
It could be because he’s not totally over them or he drove them crazy. And anyway, it takes two to make or break a relationship and placing blame on another may make it seem like he’s an immature partner.
6. How do your conversations flow?
Since this is the first date, conversations may not always flow smoothly, but do you guys at least have a few things to chat about? At this point, you’re still deciding whether or not your date’s a good match, and conversations are always a good way to gauge just that.
If it pans out well for you guys, both of you are going to have long talks and frequent conversations so it’s good to note that you can have plenty convos with your partner and not run out of things to talk about.
7. Where’s his phone?
We’re not advising you to do some digging into his inbox or photo gallery. But is he constantly checking his phone? Is he glued to it, the entire time the two of you are together? If so, then why is he even on this date? It’s common courtesy to keep your phone when you’re out with someone.
It’s understandable for him to text maybe once or twice or for chim to check his phone when you’re in the ladies’ room, but it’s just rude to scroll through Facebook when you’re sitting right across from him trying to generate a convo with his forehead. It’s simple courtesy, after all.
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