How many times have you told yourself to JUST STOP and move on? Fifty? A hundred? Still, no matter how much he’s hurt you or how he was a total jerk, you just can’t seem to get enough of him. Sound familiar?
Well, girl, it’s time for you to actually do something to avoid yet another crying session in the seclusion of your bathroom. Constantly passing up on the opportunity to let go actually just gives you more reasons to mope around and think about him yet again. So, please, please, please save yourself starting from, like, this very moment. There’s no one else who will be able to lift you from solid ground but you, after all.
No matter how tempting it might be, STOP stalking him on social media.
There’s a reason why the block button was created; take advantage of it! Constant updates on his life won’t help you get over him, nor will it help you get him back (on that note: don’t even try to get him back!) Just stop torturing yourself and get him out of your social media accounts stat!
If he tries to call or text you; ignore, ignore, ignore!
You’re probably curious about why he is contacting you in the first place. Well, guess what? It’s just another trap. So, before you fall into the losing end once more, think about the consequences and remind yourself that you need to move on. This means not giving him any of your time, even if just in the form of a call or a text.
Throw away any reminders you have of him in your life.
And yes, that includes the photos that you have of the two of you in your wallet. Even better: delete your couple photos from your phone and especially your phone’s wallpaper. Keeping reminders will only trigger your emotions, especially if the breakup is still fresh. If you keep seeing him on a regular basis, even if it’s just his beautiful virtual face, how can you expect to get over him?
Go to a park early in the morning with your jogging suit on, plug in your earphones to shut out the world and blast some good (happy!) music while taking a morning walk! Doing this will help you stay productive while doing wonders for your health and fitness at the same time. The best part? It will keep your mind off of him – or, at the very least, help you release any negative tension and make you happier overall.
Don’t try to make yourself feel better by binge-eating pizza and pints of ice cream. Instead, indulge in your favourites more than usual, but make sure you limit yourself at the same time. The feel-good hormones that you get from your favorite food will relieve you of tension and help you remember that the best things in life don’t involve your ex.
Write about your emotions.
If all else fails, pour your heart out through pen and paper. Let your tears fall through your pen and put all of your anger, frustration and pain into paper to remove them from your system. For the best results, tear the paper into pieces after lashing out! Or, if you want, burn it, baby. Watch the negativity turn into ashes, then stand up and give yourself a pat on the back.
No matter which technique you turn to, though, the most important thing above all is to forgive yourself. Be proud of the fact that you are still able to stand strong despite getting your heart broken by that trashy ex-guy of yours. And always remember that you deserve better, too.
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